I read the other day that the Forgiveness Project, of whom Archbishop Desmond Tutu is a patron, celebrates 10 years of existence this year. It caught my attention. Why would such an organisation exist?
One day I was called by a local funeral home to assist a family whose loved one had passed away. As we sat at the kitchen table they shared of their relatively young mother who had ended up in a cot in the lounge due to ill health. She would scream out at night with anguish and her bowls eventually ceased up. What was it that had caused her demise?
She had resentment and bitterness towards her father from a very young age and for good reason.
For many years it has been a privilege to council many people both young and old through a range of issues. I have learnt the following:
Unforgiveness destroys you not the other person.
Unforgiveness ruins relationships, friendships and families.
Psalm 103:10(ESV) says “He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities.” With that in mind, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32(ESV)
I have learned a technique of lining a few pebbles in a row representing individuals and organisations I need to forgive. I throw them one by one over a valley cliff or into the sea or simply into my garden. Naming and forgiving them. I make an appointment with the Lord and ask him to help me to give me the strength to do this. What a release.
Who is it that you need to forgive today to receive freedom and life?